I can’t write a real Friday blog, so I am posting a picture that summarizes a lot of Facebook posts. Right?
I hope you have a great weekend!
I can’t write a real Friday blog, so I am posting a picture that summarizes a lot of Facebook posts. Right?
I hope you have a great weekend!
It’s my birthday today… so doesn’t that give me an excuse to just blog ramble? Let me start out with some Lion comforts:
Did you see that “O.J.’s Bronco” is up for sale? This article discusses why the Pawn Stars were not willing to pay 1 million for the iconic white Bronco. (article here)
Speaking about O.J. brings us to an article on F.Lee Bailey. He is one of the remaining still alive who represented O.J. in the trial of the century. Now, he is without a law license and living “upstairs”. An article worth reading at the Washington Post titled O.J.’s last defender — F. Lee Bailey — is broke, disbarred and working above a hair salon. (here)
I noticed that I just received the following email:
Dear Estimate Customer. You have been awarded $1.500, 000.00 through Western Union Money Transfer for compensation to retain the good image of our company. Send your receiving information at (email@example.com) you have to be receiving a maximum of $6000 USD each day until the whole of $1.5M USD transfer complete. Contact the Western Union office immediately and also send your receivers information to start receiving your payment.
Doesn’t that seem like an awfully generous birthday gift? Why is fraud becoming the norm and not the exception?
And finally, I must admit that I still feel young and especially emboldened, after I see this pic o’ day! It’s going to be a great day for all of us!
Sometimes it’s good to stop and think… and listen!
I titled the blog Sometimes Events Cause Change because that thought has recently been very real to me. Here are two examples from the law firm that caused change.
Yesterday, one of the men who does investigations for our South Carolina office reminded us that 20-years-ago, his partner on the police force was shot and killed while standing right next to him. His life forever changed that day.
I say that in the context of the recent events in Charlottesville, and how families and individuals are forever changed. And, a community is now changed.
On a positive note, Geoff Glick came to work at the firm 18-years-ago today; on a Monday in 1999. I have seen the positive impact that he has had on the firm, and on so many lives in the cases that he has handled. That choice that he made to leave his other firm and come work here continues to cause change at this firm.
Which leads me to a final story about an individual’s difficulty that changed Hollywood…and the law.
Charlie Chaplin sits next to a little boy in this picture, from the 1921 movie The Kid. Child actor Jackie Coogan played an orphan who was informally adopted by Chaplin’s character. The events in the movie gave this boy a self-worth after a difficult upbringing. (movie description)
The reality of Jackie Coogan’s life is that he really did have a difficult upbringing because his parents took his money that he earned as a child actor. When he was 18, he filed suit against his mother and stepfather to get an accounting of the earnings, and to get the money due to him.
He was unable to successfully get all money entitled to him, as he only received a small portion of his earnings to date which totalled an amount of $126,000. However, the publicity from the lawsuit resulted in a law being passed in California known as the California Child Actor’s Bill, which now serves to safeguard a percentage of a child’s earnings in trust, until they turn 21.
Not only did Coogan’s difficulties lead to positive legislation, but it also led him to other acting roles, which included a successful role that he landed as an adult.
He became Uncle Fester in the popular TV series The Addams Family. A negative event that led to a positive.
Let’s hope that we will be able to look back on the weekend in Charlottesville, to see something positive rise from this negative event.
And finally for pic o’ day, I think this is encouragement. Right?
Many times in jury trials, I will describe my client’s losses and actually itemize the damages. That may include medical bills, loss of wages and even future loss of wages. It might also include a permanent injury.
Sometimes, I will make the argument when the evidence supports it, that loss of enjoyment of life is a greater loss than all the other mathematical damages for which there can be an exact mathematical tally. Rarely is it possible to put an actual value for emotional losses. However, over the weekend, I saw a video that does a good job in putting a value on emotions.
For the blog, I am not attaching the video, but here is a screenshot, in case you want to watch it. I saw it on Facebook.
The host/man-in-video goes to people walking their dogs and asks if he can buy their dog. Most of the time, he offers 100k for the dog and sometimes even offers more. He even opens up his briefcase to let them see the cash. They all say no!
Why? The general consensus is that you cannot put a value on happiness that their dog brings to them. To some, that dog may just seem like property that can be easily replaced. But the owners of those dogs think differently. The value of enjoyment of life. Quantifying the emotion of happiness. A loss that would be difficult to replace.
If you can somehow convey that loss to a jury, then it is more believable that medical bills and loss of wages actually pale in comparison to matters of the heart. To see those dog owners turn down that offer of cash was heartwarming.
And for our pic o’ day, I have to admit that I laughed… and related a little bit to this. The adventures of the grocery store!
We all know that obesity is a problem. Now, we’re told that just sitting and working at a desk is much like smoking for your health. But from Telegraph.com comes another “health issue”. The article is titled Loneliness is Deadlier than Obesity.
Researchers in more than 200 studies evaluated the health effects of social isolation and loneliness. The studies evaluated four million people.
Their findings connect loneliness to length of life. The primary finding: lonely people had a 50% increased risk of early death, compared to those who had relationships. As a comparison, obesity raises the chance of dying before the age of 70 by around 30%.
Lead researcher, Dr. Julianne Holt-Lunstad, Professor of Psychology at Brigham Young University, Utah, advises that the study shows that people should be preparing for retirement socially, just as they prepare financially. For most, the workplace is their biggest source of companionship. I think that’s a great response to those who think that people that are injured on the job, don’t want to get back to work.
According to Holt-Lunstad, “Being connected to others socially is widely considered a fundamental human need—crucial to both well-being and survival. Extreme examples show infants in custodial care who lack human contact fail to thrive and often die, and indeed, social isolation or solitary confinement has been used as a form of punishment. As she noted, “Yet an increasing portion of the population now experiences isolation regularly.”
Campaign To End Loneliness states that 17 per cent of the elderly see friends, family and neighbors less than once a week, while one in 10 may see more that one month pass without seeing any loved ones.
There was a time that people would walk next door to get a cup-of sugar and spend some time on the neighbors porch. (At least you see that in the movies, right?) Now, Facebook, email, Instagram and other methods on the Internet have become the preferred way of staying in touch. Just a thought of our reality.
Some ways in combating loneliness include making a habit of helping others and staying connected. Proverbs 18:24 tells us that “For a man to have friends, he must show himself friendly“. (Be Friendly)
Unfortunately, I see some clients who are hurting and isolated and don’t feel like connecting with others. Emotional trauma from a car crash can ultimately lead to isolation. Being alone doesn’t necessarily mean loneliness. I think that loneliness really comes from not feeling valued by someone else.
On a positive ending, it’s a great feeling to feel connected!
And for pic o’ day, two great expressions that made me laugh:
PilotOnline and U.S. News bring us one of those stories that just grips you in a very sad way. Not normally what I would write about on a Friday, but it is thought-provoking.
Last Friday, Rebekah and Austin Wesson left the courthouse in Wichita, Kansas after just getting married. The 19-year-old newlyweds could not stop smiling.
“I’m Mrs. Wesson,” Rebekah Wesson kept saying. Here is a picture of the couple that shows their happiness and hope of a wonderful future together:
On Saturday, one day after becoming husband and wife, the Wessons crashed into a tree. The pickup truck that they were riding in went off a dirt road. Austin Wesson, the driver, died at the scene. Rebekah Wesson died on Monday. Now their families are planning a funeral instead of checking Facebook to see their smiling faces on their honeymoon.
For some reason, while reading the article, I can’t help but keep looking at their picture. It causes me to ask myself, “what were they thinking in this picture”. I also think about how sad this is.
But here is the point of this blog. It’s what psychologists say that many of us do when we see bad news or bad things that happen to other people. This couldn’t happen to me!
At least that’s what psychologists tell us. It’s called optimism bias. The thought that “it won’t happen to me”. It’s why insurance companies never advertise how fast they pay. Airlines typically don’t advertise their safety record. Instead, it’s all about pricing.
It is the psychological principle that causes a person to believe that they are at a lesser risk of experiencing a bad event, as compared to others.
This blog isn’t counter to the power of prayer or the will of God. Instead, looking at this happy couple is a good reminder that bad things do happen. In the meantime, it’s up to us to exercise good behavior habits. It’s why a person might smoke. Or, why someone might be obese and continue to eat mass quantities.
It’s hard to alter bad behavior and eliminate risk. It goes against the optimism bias. The converse is reality. I remember when I sold Harley-Davidson motorcycles to put myself through law school. Invariably, I would hand the keys and paperwork to a new buyer and comment that I knew they would ride safely… but be careful of other drivers. No optimism can change negligence of someone else!
After that blog… I feel like I need something to pick us up a bit. So, here’s a pic o’ that makes me smile. I hope you have a great weekend!
Yes, I wish this was a blog about the virtues of macaroni and cheese pancakes or egg plant french fries. No, not cheese straws and hush puppies. See… I have your attention now! Right?
I have recently spoken to a couple of people who have been successful in their weight loss goals. Both of them attributed part of their weight loss to, “I stopped drinking Coke”. Coca-Cola even admits that their drinks make you put on weight. (ARTICLE HERE)
Just something to consider from a Pharmacist:
And here is an article on why we are told not to drink diet soda. (Diet Coke) Not surprisingly, the reasons include depression, bad for your bones and teeth, and potentially bad for your heart. Of course there is the obvious of obesity and diabetes.
Just something for us to think about.
And for our pic o’ day, here are two kids’ pictures that make me smile:
Are those fun-sized candy bars, if you just finished eating 27? I appreciate my friend, Ken Price, saying that his abs are so awesome that he had to grow a layer of fat over them to keep from getting someone hurt. Hahahahaha!
I just wrote those random sentences because they remind me of the hypothetical commencement speech of Mary Schmich, which was published in June of 1997 to the supposed class of 1999.
It has been called the “Wear Sunscreen” speech and was set to music and released as a “Spoken Word Song” by Baz Luhrmann. Ultimately, the author says that the most important thing… wear sunscreen! Pretty good advice.
Today, I attached this 5 minute version in the blog, in case you wanted some advice on life from this speech, and just feel like relaxing instead of reading. So here it is:
Maybe it is “advice like youth, probably just wasted on the young”, but wouldn’t it be great if we could worry less and be thankful for more. (That’s my thought)
And for pic o’ day, this invention!
If you aren’t a coffee fan, you might want to stop reading right now. Unless, you are willing to consider the health effects of coffee. And why you might want to work a cup in, even though you normally drink tea. Hey, I understand. There was a time that I drank Diet Coke in the morning, and then ice tea the rest of the day. That’s why I am writing this coffee blog. I could have mentioned the Seinfeld episode about the coffee table book about coffee tables. This book is kind of like that, except it’s about coffee not tables.
Let’s start with the subject matter:
This is the book that I bought, while I was at our Greenville, South Carolina office. I don’t want any “competitor lawyers” reading this book… so don’t share this blog! (No need to share our secrets of success!)
I have posted a picture of the cover of a book that extols all the amazing benefits of coffee. In fact, I am now convinced that I will live to be over 150 years old. Seriously! As long as I have coffee!
The opening chapter starts with Should You Put Coffee In Your Face Right Now? Can you guess the answer?
Here are a few reasons that are listed to drink coffee:
1.Coffee can help retain memory.
2.Drinking Coffee is an aid to weight loss.
3.Coffee helps reduce stress.
The only reason you might not want to read this book? If you drink coffee at Starbucks and you are worried about your calorie consumption. I will just leave it at that. (OK, one cafe latte equals the equivalent of a slice of pizza. But who is counting? Right?)
I admit it. 200 years from now, they may dig up my blog archives from the rubble. I can be assured that my political position on coffee was… YES!
Have a cup-of-Joe! (And the book will tell you why it’s called a Cup-of-Joe)
And for pic o’ day… this truly makes me laugh! (Especially because I am not a big fan of flying)
Here’s a starter for Monday. Did you feel like Uncle D’s dog this morning? It looks like Jake just couldn’t get motivated!
The quick topic for Our Blog was written about in several newspapers including an article in the Washington Post titled (here) “Six middle fingers on Snapchat lead to disqualification of Junior League softball team.”
An Atlee softball team, whose actions made it to ESPN.(here) But not because of winning. The Virginia players were supposed to play on national television at the Junior League World Series. Just hours before the game, the Atlee Little League softball team was disqualified from the tournament.
One of their players posted a photo on Snapchat that showed six of the girls giving the middle finger. The post was directed at the host club from Kirkland, Washington. Kirkland was the team that Atlee had defeated in the semifinals.
After the picture was posted, it was quickly removed. They then attempted to apologize for it, but the league felt that the damage was done.
Little League spokesman Kevin Fountain called the post “inappropriate” in a statement to the Richmond Times-Dispatch. He said that it violated the league’s “policies regarding unsportsmanlike conduct.”
Here is the redacted picture that was posted and then later removed:
The article raises the idea of the responsibility of supervising, and “does the punishment fit the crime?”.
The manager of Atlee took offense to the disqualification. “It’s a travesty for these girls,” Currie told the Times-Dispatch on Saturday. “Yes, they screwed up, but I don’t think the punishment fit the crime.”
This was a hard lesson for these players. The power…and pressure of social media and the effect of a posting.
And here is an editorial about the “aftermath” that summarizes one reporter’s thoughts. A national story about a local Virginia team.
And finally for our pic o’ day, this is “thematic” with our social media topic.