A few years ago, I had just finished settling a case. The defense attorney pulled me aside to talk about the settlement after the mediation . She told me that the insurance company had paid more on the case than they had initially set aside in reserves.
Then, she went on to explain why. She said that in the beginning, they were not that impressed with my client and thought that the jury might not be sympathetic toward him. Then, they took the deposition of my client’s wife. The insurance adjuster had also been in attendance during that deposition.
When the insurance adjuster filled out her report and then “round-tabled” the case with her superiors and the defense attorney, she kept coming back to her reaction to that deposition. The insurance company came to the conclusion that the jury might see my client differently.
They believed that they needed to settle the case because they were concerned that the jury might see my client through the eyes of his wife. It was obvious how much his wife loved and cared for him and had been there for him, throughout the entire difficult time.
Remembering that story brings me to a 2004 study that was done by the Institute of Human Thermodynamics. They asked a group of kids between the ages of 4-8, “What does love mean” , and the following are some of those responses:
“when my grandmother got arthritis, she couldn’t bend over and paint her toenails anymore. So my grandfather does it for her all the time, even when his hands got arthritis too. That’s love.” Rebecca – age 8
“Love is when a girl puts on perfume and a boy puts on shaving cologne and they go out and smell each other.” Karl – age 5
“Love is when you go out to eat and give somebody most of your French fries without making them give you any of theirs.” Chrissy – age 6
“Love is what makes you smile when you’re tired.” Terri – age 4
‘”Love is when my mommy makes coffee for my daddy and she takes a sip before giving it to him, to make sure the taste is OK.” Danny – age 7
“Love is when you kiss all the time. Then when you get tired of kissing, you still want to be together and you talk more. My Mommy and Daddy are like that. They look gross when they kiss” Emily – age 8
“Love is what’s in the room with you at Christmas if you stop opening presents and listen,” Bobby – age 7 (Wow!)
“If you want to learn to love better, you should start with a friend who you hate,” Nikka – age 6
“There are two kinds of love. Our love. God’s love. But God makes both kinds of them.” Jenny – age 8
“Love is when you tell a guy you like his shirt, then he wears it everyday.” Noelle – age 7
“Love is like a little old woman and a little old man who are still friends even after they know each other so well.” Tommy – age 6
“During my piano recital, I was on a stage and I was scared. I looked at all the people watching me and saw my daddy waving and smiling. He was the only one doing that. I wasn’t scared anymore,” Cindy – age 8
“My mommy loves me more than anybody. You don’t see anyone else kissing me to sleep at night.” Clare – age 6
“Love is when Mommy gives Daddy the best piece of chicken.” Elaine -age 5
“Love is when Mommy sees Daddy smelly and sweaty and still says he is handsomer than Robert Redford.” Chris – age 7
“When you love somebody, your eyelashes go up and down and little stars come out of you.” Karen – age 7