One man decided to tackle his forgetfulness by attending a seminar to increase his ability to remember. A few weeks later, he was telling his friend about his newly acquired memory skills.
“You won’t believe it,” he told his friend, “This memory seminar really has helped me remember things!” His friend’s interest was piqued. “How does it work?” The man then went on to explain, “you simply think of an object that helps you to build a reminder link to the thing that you want to remember. This simple technique helps to link your memory back to the item that you want to remember”.
His friend thought a bit and then decided that he wanted to learn the technique. “What’s the name of the seminar? I think that I might sign up for it.” The man paused a moment and replied, “Let’s see, I am thinking of a flower with red petals; Hmm, it’s coming to me. long stems, thorns…. that’s right, rose.” Then the man yelled to his wife in the next room, “Hey Rose, what’s the name of that seminar that I went to?”
In Alice In Wonderland, the Cheshire Cat summarized remembering pain by saying to Alice, “Only the savage regard the endurance of pain as the measure of worth. Forgetting pain is convenient, remembering is agonizing”.
Fortunately, our mind tends to put the pain of the past behind us. If we really thought about it, the “good ole days” were probably not really that good. In fact, the present is better. Maybe that is why philosopher Friedrich Nietzsche wrote that “without forgetting, it is quite impossible to live at all”.
I mention memory and pain because I have noticed that clients sometimes forget details of their pain in making a claim. I usually suggest that they keep a “pain diary” of the problems from their crash. On one hand, the client is living a normal life until a car runs into them. Then, the defendant or the defense attorney will notify us that they are not admitting liability. When that happens, I believe that the defendant not accepting responsibility for the crash, is causing additional pain and anguish because they just won’t say those magic words, “I’m sorry”.
One last footnote to memory and pain. It is up to us as lawyers to show the jury what our client has gone through, for them to consider how to fix, help or make up for the harms that were caused. Whenever a case does settle or concludes through trial, I have noticed a bit of a weight that comes off my client’s shoulders. Responsibility has been accepted and now the memory can begin putting the pain behind it. That’s probably why I hear the phrase, “I am so glad to put that behind me”.
DID YOU KNOW that astronaut Buzz Aldrins’ mother’s maiden name was “Moon”? Aldrin was the second man ever to walk on the moon.
And pic o’ day…